At a coffee shop this morning I couldn’t help but over hear a conversation between two young men.
One was asking for career advice and the other was giving it.
The problem with this is that the person asking for advice isn’t trusting themselves to know what to do.
All of the answers for us are within us.
Creating stillness and presence is how insight (answers) come to us.
But many people default to the opinions of others before their own.
The problem with this is that the advice-giver is giving advice through their ego.
They are flattered by the advice-seeker’s trust in them, and it acts as an ego boost, a status game.
Most people give you advice they wouldn’t follow because they don’t want to see you more successful than them.
It’s an ego game.
They don’t do it consciously.
The advice-giver is not genuine, and if they are it’s through their own experience they give advice.
So why do you think it will help you and your experience?
The only person who can help you “figure it out” is you.
You need to catch yourself when you are in your advice-seeking stage.
The advice-seeking stage is a critical time for self-reflection.
When you are in this stage it’s important to act.
If you’ve scheduled the time with someone keep it.
But at the end of the day, trust yourself.
Understand that the need to seek advice is the ego’s need to have control instead of allowing you to take the risk that your intuition is telling you to leap toward.
Bringing awareness to this stage will allow you shift your perspective and navigate the situation in alignment.
Here’s why.
THE LAST TIME I ASKED FOR ADVICE
When you are in an advice seeking stage the most important thing you can do is become aware of the ego’s need to listen to someone else.
The ego wants to listen to someone else because it doesn’t live in the present moment.
Trusting yourself and your wisdom is found in the present moment.
In stillness, when the mind is calm and not thinking.
The ego knows this, and tries to get you to go seek advice instead.
It wants to make a “rational” decision using information from someone who you perceive to be successful.
For me, this was the $1 Million Dollar Gym Owner (see last week’s letter).
In my advice-seeking stage, I wanted to get advice from someone who I thought “made it”.
I was aware I was in this stage and took the time to have the conversation.
By following through on the action, I received the biggest insight in my life.
This gym owner wasn’t free.
My goal is to have financial, locational, and time freedom.
The person who my ego had perceived was successful, “had it all”, and wanted to mimic wasn’t in alignment with the life I wanted to live.
Of course it wasn’t because I was seeking advice.
Advice seeking is misalignment.
Listening to your own intuition is alignment.
Trusting yourself to reveal the answers is alignment.
Leaning toward self-action is alignment.
So go ahead, make the connection because it might reveal the biggest insight in your life.
The answers you seek are not found in other people.
They are found within.
I love you,
Iz Quane